Beating my own negative mindset started mid last week, when following my beach bootcamp training session, I thought I would get in a quick training session before I headed to work. That was all good, but what happened over the last 24 hours was a build up of events that took their toll and then my mindset took a turn for the worst as soon as I finished my training session.
The Story Goes Something Like This:
I had a late Wednesday evening with a social night out to go to the footy match. Before we headed out, we tried our best to ensure that everything was ready for the next morning.. I had a busy day with running a full day workshop after bootcamp. When I am organised, my mindset is on top of the world… So I generally tend to live a very organised life!
In this instance… it meant:
– work and gym clothes packed in car; training uniform ready for next morning
– nutritional brekky and lunch needed to be packed
– ute packed with bootcamp gear; routine ready for the bootcamp session
– get the baby ready for the evening and next day
– tidy up the house due to renovations that were happening which meant there was lots of dust everywhere.
Apart from spending most of the day running around, I felt like we were in 6th gear to get out on time on Wednesday night. We wanted to get to the footy early to enjoy the atmosphere.
How my mindset turned to S**T!
So we got in close to midnight, woke up around 4.50am after little sleep with baby being unsettled all night; felt generally sick this particular morning so getting out the door was atypically difficult.When I got out to run bootcamp down at Brighton Le Sands beach, the feeling of ill went up a few notches, but I pushed through.
After bootcamp, I thought I would life my energy by hitting the gym which was on the way to work. Again went in, I completed a quick superset session (again feeling like Im in 6th gear) and then when I went to shower and get changed, my mindset started to play with me! I basically hit the wall over the most trivial things… not having the right pants, forgot my make up bag, no hair brush and realising that I didnt have a nutritional brekky packed – there just wasn’t enough time this morning.
Argh!!!! So running around like an idiot in 6th gear the night before and still wasn’t fully prepared to avoid feeling stressed in the morning.
What my negative mindset was saying to me
At this point in time, my mindset was shifting into negative space – I dont want to “go and run a workshop” how can I “energise people when I dont have energy myself” and “I look like Ive just gotten out of bed – this isnt a good look”
Where I was at:
I took stock, started to take a few deep breaths and used my Doterra oils – balance and motivate – and spent a few mins closing my eyes and just breathing in. At this point in time I still wanted to just go home and sleep!
I decided Ill start driving towards the local supermarket which wasn’t too far from my work. I decided to go and see what I could scrape together for a nutritional snack and then decide what I was going to do.
I picked up some deli items, and snacked on these… whilst there I picked up a comb and a make up stick and did myself up in my car.
By this time, I started to feel better and started to rationalise the irrational thoughts.
Flicking the switch back to a positive mindset
1. I accepted that I was feeling fatigued and that it was temporary.
2. I recognised that the ‘meltdown’ feelings were over trivial things – it didnt really matter that I didnt have the right pants or make up. There were other options (buying, borrowing); and at the end of the day, would anyone really have noticed?
3. I recalled that I run a decent class at Brighton Beach Bootcamp session. I love running classes, they energise me, and it feels good to help others – I reflected on these feelings
4. I was exposed to a beautiful morning, beautiful sunrise and the stillness of the morning. I love these kind of mornings as they make me feel at peace in my crazy world. I took the time to visualise the earlier morning that I had just experienced.
5. I took action – I recognised where I was at; I took time to refocus my thoughts through deep breathing. This only took 5 minutes out of my morning. And then took action to go and rectify what was making me feel negative.
Why I was so upset at myself
I was really annoyed that I had my priorities all wrong the evening before – I was putting myself into 6th gear when I was already fatigued to get to a football match early. In the end, I could have been better prepared if I had actually prioritised myself first.
The point of the story
It is what it is – sometimes we mess up, sometimes we run around trying to get everything in order, and the plan is still messed up.
Sometimes the most trivial things set off a mood, a negative mindset or a meltdown.. that is part of life as we are only human.
What we can do is take stock, accept the momentary feelings that come with it; recognise that we are not our emotions; use gratuity and breathing to help reset the mind, come up with a plan and take action.
Whilst I accept that this isn’t hard to do, the more that you work on yourself, work on your mindset, the more naturally things will come to you.