Get Real with yourself!
Are you feeling like certain aspects of your life are a constant uphill battle?
Do you feel like its a constant ongoing battle?
What are the stories that you tell yourself? That its all too hard?
Reality check – life is messy right?
I wanted to share one of my current struggles with you all and give you strategies on how to overcome your own struggles.
Having a new baby in life has basically turned my very well planned highly organised life into absolute chaos! For those that know me, you would appreciate how difficult it would be to alter the mindset of a person that run their life pretty much like a gantt chart on a project.
Whereas I was used to being a superb timer of everything – home, work, study, fitness, meal preparation, social activities, time out for myself, time out for my relationship, time out for my family and friends, and to do what I wanted to do, its now all turned into one focus.
Baby basically runs her own agenda daily – and that changes every single day! For any parent out there, they would know what Im talking about. For me that means that on most days I achieve very little of what I set out to achieve. For a little while it started to feel quite overwhelming – constantly being behind the 8 ball; not being on top of my game and coupled with sleepless nights and increased fatigue I started to feel like I had lost all sense of control of my day to day life.
The reality of life is simple, life is messy.
We all struggle against uncertainty, pain, and life’s ambiguity and we each bear our struggles alone. No one else walks in our shoes – however we can take comfort knowing that we have friends, family or support networks that can help guide us through each of our struggles.
Ultimately, when we acknowledge and manage our struggles we develop a deeper character within ourselves. Our struggles helps us realise that we are alive, they help us find ourselves, develop new philosophies on how to live better, and ultimately each struggle that we face tests us to help us develop a better life for ourselves.
I could very easily let the chaos in my life get on top of me right now, make me feel anxious and depressed. However I choose not to. I have chosen to adapt and shift my priorities temporarily each day and be aware that the baby’s agenda comes first at this point in time. I am therefore altering the expectations that I have on myself. I also seek help from family and friends so that I can continue to achieve enough to continue to run a business and household as seamless as possible.
These are simple tips, but they’ve made a huge difference in how I deal with pain.
1. Be aware of it – awareness is the first step – acknowledge it and know that whatever you are struggling with is only temporary. It will pass and how you choose to perceive it will determine how you cope with it.
2. Breathe – stop and just take deep breaths – do this in nature or somewhere that feels good in your home. Slow down your breathing and allow yourself to relax.
3. Use essential oils – my favourites are Doterra’s Whisper, Balance and Elevation – I diffuse these, I wear these and they make me feel at peace.
4. Workout – even its its only 5 mins per session that you can do
5. Meditate – I use the Insight App thats free and put this on several times throughout the day
6. Express your gratitude – I’m grateful that no matter what I have a wonderful baby and ultimately how I choose to show myself to her will set up her views and how she chooses to live her life.
7. Rewrite your story – we all tell ourselves stories about who we are, about what is going on, how the world works and what people are like. More often than not, as a result of the negativity bias at play, those stories are dis-empowering. So choose to rewrite your story.
8. Find reasons to appreciate everything around you – focus on what is positive and right about your current struggle… it could be to build character, to find meaning, to give you a new direction.
I would love to hear your thoughts and hear anything that you’re struggling with.. a struggle or pain shared can be a pain halved.