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Get Real with yourself!

Are you feeling like certain aspects of your life are a constant uphill battle?

Do you feel like its a constant ongoing battle?

What are the stories that you tell yourself? That its all too hard?

Reality check – life is messy right?

I wanted to share one of my current struggles with you all and give you strategies on how to overcome your own struggles.

Having a new baby in life has basically turned my very well planned highly organised life into absolute chaos! For those that know me, you would appreciate how difficult it would be to alter the mindset of a person that run their life pretty much like a gantt chart on a project.

Whereas I was used to being a superb timer of everything – home, work, study, fitness, meal preparation, social activities, time out for myself, time out for my relationship, time out for my family and friends, and to do what I wanted to do, its now all turned into one focus.

Baby basically runs her own agenda daily – and that changes every single day! For any parent out there, they would know what Im talking about. For me that means that on most days I achieve very little of what I set out to achieve. For a little while it started to feel quite overwhelming – constantly being behind the 8 ball; not being on top of my game and coupled with sleepless nights and increased fatigue I started to feel like I had lost all sense of control of my day to day life.

The reality of life is simple, life is messy.

We all struggle against uncertainty, pain, and life’s ambiguity and we each bear our struggles alone. No one else walks in our shoes – however we can take comfort knowing that we have friends, family or support networks that can help guide us through each of our struggles.

Ultimately, when we acknowledge and manage our struggles we develop a deeper character within ourselves. Our struggles helps us realise that we are alive, they help us find ourselves, develop new philosophies on how to live better, and ultimately each struggle that we face tests us to help us develop a better life for ourselves.

I could very easily let the chaos in my life get on top of me right now, make me feel anxious and depressed. However I choose not to. I have chosen to adapt and shift my priorities temporarily each day and be aware that the baby’s agenda comes first at this point in time. I am therefore altering the expectations that I have on myself. I also seek help from family and friends so that I can continue to achieve enough to continue to run a business and household as seamless as possible.

These are simple tips, but they’ve made a huge difference in how I deal with pain.

1. Be aware of it – awareness is the first step – acknowledge it and know that whatever you are struggling with is only temporary. It will pass and how you choose to perceive it will determine how you cope with it.

2. Breathe – stop and just take deep breaths – do this in nature or somewhere that feels good in your home. Slow down your breathing and allow yourself to relax.

3. Use essential oils – my favourites are Doterra’s Whisper, Balance and Elevation – I diffuse these, I wear these and they make me feel at peace.

4. Workout – even its its only 5 mins per session that you can do

5. Meditate – I use the Insight App thats free and put this on several times throughout the day

6. Express your gratitude – I’m grateful that no matter what I have a wonderful baby and ultimately how I choose to show myself to her will set up her views and how she chooses to live her life.

7. Rewrite your story – we all tell ourselves stories about who we are, about what is going on, how the world works and what people are like. More often than not, as a result of the negativity bias at play, those stories are dis-empowering. So choose to rewrite your story.

8. Find reasons to appreciate everything around you – focus on what is positive and right about your current struggle… it could be to build character, to find meaning, to give you a new direction.

Prefer to battle it out through fitness? Join us at bootcamp  with our 2 week trial for $2 and feel good!

I would love to hear your thoughts and hear anything that you’re struggling with.. a struggle or pain shared can be a pain halved.

 

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Release your motivation limitation

I often get asked how I manage to be constantly motivated to run my outdoor bootcamp sessions at St George and Brighton Le Sand, work full time, and have time for family, a new baby, and part time thesis study. Getting up by 4.30 or 5am most mornings for over 5 years now, with only a few hours of good sleep, and finding ways to run interesting fitness sessions outdoors is no easy slog! Being a trainer is definitely not glamorous like some tend to stereotype.

When I sit back and reflect, I don’t believe that I go out looking for things to motivate me. Rather its the realisation that I get my energy from people, love the outdoors, and love fitness, thus its easy to find ways to stay motivated each and every day. I dont think of being motivated as something that I consciously do.

I focus on positive energy through open minded conversations with people, through knowing that I can make a difference to peoples lives and knowing that I can not only share my knowledge each and every day, however learn from others with every encounter that I have every single day. When I reflect on o

So then when I see great results from results from members in programs such as the body transformation and reboot challenges that we undertake at Kappatalize Fitness, I know that I have made a difference, that I have been able to energise my members to set themselves up for success in their fitness and nutrition goals, whether it be weight loss, getting leaner, or generally just feeling better about themselves. This then helps not only keep me motivated, but increases my motivation.

You see about 12 months ago I came to the realisation that for most of my clients, fitness is not just about the weight loss – its about making time for themselves, for ourselves. Coming to the outdoor bootcamps gives us the opportunity yo enjoy nature, to train within an open environment with other like minded individuals, and to also allow ourselves some “me time” away from our hectic lives. In the process we get to move, meet people and enjoy a fitness session where we dont necessarily have to think about what we do next.

Im a strong believer in being good to ourselves and in order to achieve that we need to focus on increasing self awareness, working on mindset and knowing that a good part of achieving our intentions is all about working on ourselves and working on our mindset to develop our best selves. This could mean learning from others, reflecting, being grateful for what we have, acknowledging our achievements daily , journalling, taking time out to enjoy our surrounds and knowing how we can best set ourselves up for success each and every day.

So to get you all thinking, I have listed the top 10 things that I try and do all the time to ensure that my motivation levels are at a premium:

1. I take action every day by setting my intentions for the day, and making the commitment. So set your intentions and commit or recommit to these!

2. I have a plan nutrition and exercise – I stick to it and avoid getting distracted

3. I try and simplify my life – focus on getting to the end game with a few things, and enjoying the journey in the process

4. I move every day – whether its my weight training, a kappatalize fitness @ home workout, or walk, cycle, yoga… I make sure I move as much as possible

5. I reflect and appreciate how far I have come as a person and how much I have grown

6. If I have had a bad day, I let it go and move on!

7. I spend time reflecting on what I have done well and self critique what I could do different, what I have learned and what positives I can take from my learnings

8. I am grateful every day that I live in a free country, that I have opportunities and that I am surrounded by wonderful people that I choose to be amongst

9. I cut myself slack – we only live once so its okay to enjoy life – I choose however to do it in moderation

10.I repeat this every day

Think about these tips and the ones that resonate with you – what would work for you and why? Developing your best self takes time, means putting work into you, and can sometimes be very confronting. I would rather confront myself, call myself on my shit and live a genuine life… its who I am.

Final reflection and thoughts… put these practices into place..rather than constantly look for ways to be motivated, work on yourself instead and the motivation to continue to step up your game will naturally be there.

I welcome any comments, and for those that would like more information, receive tips and ideas on how to develop your best self through mind and body, please link with us through our social media channels.

See you all soon
Kappa

Achieve the body you want by working on your mind!

So over the last few months I was confronted with self confidence issues around my body image. Adapting to a growing belly was something that took effort and a change in mindset.

To combat some of the thoughts I was having, many of you will remember that I posted pregnancy training videos to take myself out of my comfort zone, to show that you can still train whilst pregnant and to help me deal with my fears of my body shape changing.

Whilst I believe that we are all given the body that we have and we should love that body, it’s human nature to always aspire to something more.

I’m a big believer in putting in 💯 percent effort and commitment to developing your best self… if you do this and are true to yourself that you have taken action, then you are developing your best self – that’s all you can aspire to.

Self love is really important, and having a great mindset leads to self love…

Now most of you would know that I’m not big on posting selfies (except on my personal page when travelling 😂)….

However I want to post these selfies to show you that you can transform your body:
– if you work on your mindset
– if you set out your goals
– if you prioritise those goals
– if you focus and commit to want you want to achieve
– if you believe you can achieve

Then you will transform your body to achieve your goals!

Our biggest challenge is overcoming our own thoughts, own fears and the bullshit stories and excuses we make for ourselves.

Time is usually one of the stories… we all have 24 hours in a day – it’s how we choose to use those hours that differentiates us. Exercise only takes 4% of your day… it could take less than 2%.

To work on yourself takes ongoing effort and commitment.

One of the biggest barriers to not achieving our goals tends to be our mindset.

So if you work on your mindset, focus on your priorities and you will achieve what you set out to achieve.

These selfies also take me out of my comfort zone 😜

So if you are ready to commit 💯 percent to yourself, contact us below and I can show you how at my Brighton Le Sands and Peakhurst group outdoor fitness sessions.

Pre pregnancy at 38 weeks, had Danae at 39 weeks and 5 weeks after having baby.

 

@ 38 weeks pregnant

5 weeks post baby